Tips on helping your child with
1) Talk to your child and ask not only how there day was, but
were they treated kindly today?
2) If your child is being bullied discuss a game plan on how he/she can
protect themselves at school. Role play, talk out strategies, ask if you need
to get involved.
3) Listen, Listen, Listen. Encourage, strategize and discuss. Let him/her
know you are there as a sounding board to help. Don’t rush in too quickly.
Children need to learn problem solving skills.
4) If the problem does not cease let your child know that you will be
getting involved and ask if they would like to be a part of this discussion with
the counselor and or principal at the school. Involve teachers (especially when
your child has more than one teacher) to be on the look out for bullying against
5) Make an appointment with an individual at the school. Share your
concerns openly without confrontation. Ask for a follow up report and follow
through with this. Don’t assume the problem is resolved with one visit.
6) Check with your child each day and continue to support them.
7) Follow up with teachers to ensure your child’s safety at school.
8) If you happen to know the other child and their parents, proceed with
caution. You might want to contact them by phone and ask for a face to face
meeting with the parents and both children. Don’t attack the parents or the
bully. This only makes the situation worse. Allow for the two students to talk
with one another and try to get to the bottom of the issue. Always conclude the
discussion by having the two students shake hands with a mutual agreement to
cease fire. Thank the other parents for allowing you into their home and shake
hands with them as well.
9) If you are the parent who receives that phone call that your child IS the
bully, pay attention and become involved.
10) Teach your children how to be kind to others by demonstrating it
yourself. Remember, your child hears everything you say and do and will repeat
your words and your actions out in public.